As I sat in the house watching reruns of “Sex in the City” Season 6 Episode 2 “Great Sexpectations”, to be exact. I asked myself “How can we help someone to better understand where we are on our sexual journey?” For those who don’t know, the episode begins with Carrie indulging in sexual intercourse with a potential suitor for the first time. Let’s just say her he was unable to meet her “sexpectations.” Lord, I have been in this position more than once and it’s fucking devastating, to say the least. Imagine meeting someone who check’s most of your boxes. Mentally and financially stable, caring, supporting, trustworthy, adventurous, emotionally available, etc. However, they fail to please you sexually. Now I know there are plenty of women who claim sex isn’t at the top of their list of what they are looking for in a man, and I call bullshit. Sex is extremely important in any romantic relationship. Let’s keep it real, many relationships end due to sex i.e. (cheating) or the lack thereof.
I sat for days wondering what the solution to this issue maybe. That solution is a SEXXIONNAIRE. Now, I know you’re wondering what the hell is a SEXXIONAIRE. A SEXXIONAIRE is a questionnaire that gives you an Indepth insight your partner’s past experiences, likes, dislikes, fantasies, and kinks. I believe it’s best used to determine if a potential suitor is sexually compatible or to see how your partner’s perspective has changed over time.
- What’s your definition of amazing sex?
- Do you remember the best orgasm you have ever had?
- If you can have sex anywhere in the world, where would it be?
- What would an erotic vacation look like to you?
- How important is sex to you in a relationship.
- On a scale from 1-10 how important is foreplay?
- Why?
- Do you prefer to give or receive?
- Are you comfortable with initiating sex?
- What are your thoughts on porn?
- What is your go to category?
- What is your favorite time of day to have sex?
- Do you have a sexual fetish?
- If so, what is it?
- What are your favorite positions?
- What’ ‘s something non-sexual that turns you on?
- What turns you off?
- Are you comfortable with using “adult toys to enhance your sex life?
- If so, what toys do you prefer?
- Where is the most daring place you’ve had sex?
- What’s the freakiest thing you have ever done while having sex?
- What’s your favorite sexual fantasy?